I know that the weight of losing a loved one can be heavy and a pain like no other, but you must make the choice to try and create and stick with a daily routine. After losing my daughter I tried to get in the habit each morning of saying a prayer and reading one of my favorite scriptures. This helped me gain the strength to move on in my day.

I also made myself shower and get dressed even if it were just in leggings and a t shirt . Most times I wanted to skip this part of the day but I had to constantly push myself to keep with the routine. It became easier over time because I began to realize that I could look forward to feeling a little better afterwards.

When caring for my children when they were sick, I’d always incorporate a hot bath and fresh clean pajamas into caring for them.  This information can also be found at https://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/soothing-sick-child#2. I know it helps because this helped when my mom took care of me as a child. I learned to incorporate this as part of taking care of myself in hopes that this would somehow help ease the pain.  And it definitely did!

Don’t get so loss in grieving that you forget to take care of you.

When you look good, you feel better!

Spirituality– The process of finding oneself or understanding ourselves.  The realization of God in ourselves.

-My faith in God and our church family is the only thing that got me and my children through this difficult time.

-Just three years after losing my daughter, I lost my dad (to what I believe to have been due to a broken heart).  He was the only consistent man in my childrens lives so this was another tough blow for us.

This is in no way to push religion on anyone.  I grew up in church so my faith and spirituality was already strong.  

I was somewhat new in my area when I lost Shae.  About a month before she passed she had a teacher that invited us to church which was less than a mile from our home.  Little did I know at the time that would be my first and last visit with Shae or that teacher and church would become so beneficial in me and my childrens healing.

I had to learn to let go of the pain and burdens and let God have his way and pull us through.