To know your worth refers to the appreciation and value that an individual gives to their self. Knowing your worth is a huge part of life and once you realize how much you are truly worth, then you won’t settle for anything less than you deserve. Most tend to confuse “self worth” (which refers to the “value” one has for himself) with “self esteem” (which is the “appreciation” that an individual has for himself.)
I have always had very high self esteem but the path traveled to knowing my worth is what took me a little longer. I often times in the past felt that I wasn’t deserving of good things in my life. This can probably be contributed to all of the bad things that had happened. I found myself settling for jobs that I didn’t like when I knew I could do better. I also settled in relationships when I knew I deserved better. There were four things that I adapted to each day that helped me improve my sense of self and changed all that.
Working towards accepting myself
I had to train my thoughts in not being so judgmental of myself which allowed me to become more confident. I would write down three to five things each day that I valued about myself and that list still continues to grow.
I learned how to say no
I began to realize that constantly being the one that said yes to things that I didn’t really want to do only weakened my sense of self. It feels good to be selfish at times and say no for the betterment of oneself.
I became more aware of my need to please
This took me awhile to fully understand, but it was hard for me to have a strong sense of self while basing my identity and worth off the opinions of others. I came to the realization that I deserved to be at the top of my list.
I learned how to be alone
This allowed me time to learn about myself with no interruptions. I began going to lunch or doing a little shopping alone, taking the time I needed to get better acquainted with “me”. This in turn helped me to understand and acknowledge all that I was worth.
Self esteem may tend to be most popular as related to Psychology. However self worth is the core of our being. It’s our behaviors and thoughts and how we value our worthiness as human beings. “if you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.”
Know your worth, value your feelings, and don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.